Relationships & Family Wounds

A black sheep stands out in the middle of a herd of white sheep, symbolizing rejection, exclusion, and shame.

Growing up, there was an unspoken rule to stay in line. Don’t take up too much space. Don’t be too emotional. Keep things smooth and hold it together.

There wasn’t room for your full self - only the version that kept the family or relationship functioning. Even now, those patterns linger.

It's hard to ask for what you need without guilt washing over you. It's hard to feel cared for without pulling away. Some days, it feels like you're still waiting for permission to just exist.

Some roles are hard to let go of, even when they’re hurting you

Keeping the peace shouldn’t mean losing yourself.

A boy in stress and distress, cupping his head with his hands, looking down and sitting on the floor of a library.

You took on too much, too early. You became the one who stayed calm, managed everyone else's emotions, never asked for more. You were praised for being so independent - even when you were desperately lonely.

You learned to read the room before you spoke, to stay ahead of everyone's moods. It kept things predictable, but taught you that your feelings didn't matter as much as everyone else's peace.

Now it's hard to know where you end and others begin. You hold back in conversations, second-guess whether your needs are even valid.

When no one met you emotionally, you learned to go without

Untangle the past and find your emotional voice with depth-oriented therapy.

A family portrait of a multi-generational Asian American family, consisting of an elderly man, middle-aged woman, and young adult woman.

These patterns live in your body, your choices, your silence. You still flinch when someone raises their voice. You give until you're empty, then wonder why you feel resentful.

Maybe you're drawn to people who need saving, or who keep you guessing. Available people feel foreign because chaos feels like home. You want intimacy but you're terrified of being truly seen.

You replay conversations, wondering if you said the wrong thing. You set a boundary, then want to take it back. Love feels like work.

In our work together, we'll explore not just the roles you played, but the parts of you that got buried. The tenderness you learned to hide. The anger you were never allowed to feel.

These stories live in your body, your choices, your silence

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Not sure where you fit? If something here feels familiar - even if you can’t explain why - you’re in the right place.

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